Getting out of the house on time on school mornings has recently become so very much easier.
Because John wants to win.
I just yell, “I’m gonna win!”, and walk out the door to the car.
Keep in mind, this is a DEFCON-5 intervention.
For those mornings when nothing else works, and Mom is about to make a bad choice.
I get my stuff into the car, sit and calm down.
So far, depending on the morning, I have backed up, driven around the circle cul de sac, and (even) pulled back up into the driveway.
I watch to see him running toward me, some form of emotion on his face.
(Only the second time was sad and worried. The first time, he didn’t believe me. Now it has evolved into a laughing game, so not sure who is out-smarting who….)
I say something like, “where were you?”, “oh, I missed you!”, and “I forgot you!”.
With either a sad or happy face.
And please remember: we had to work up to this level of freedom.
When we are (finally) ready, I get out of the car and lock the front door.
And we are gone.
Next thing is to teach him how to close and lock the front door.
I use this process of “I’m gonna win!” also with piano lessons and any other time my pile of re-directs fail to get “fast” going.
Another thing: we practice “fast”. A lot. Sometimes successfully.
Perhaps this can work at your home?
Peace be with us,