Time is our greatest scarcity. Never enough time to do all we want to do.
And we seem to still be trying to get our morning schedule back on track.
(Due to spring break, daylight savings time, and getting over being sick.)
And we often cope with slow-poke executive functioning.
So, here are some very recent re-direct tricks that may work as well for you.
- “First one to buckle their seat belt wins!”
- “Do you want to brush your teeth in the car or in the bathroom?”
- “Do you want to eat your food at the table or in the car?”
- “Bye! Meet you in the car.”
I have given up on trying to make John eat.
I now ask, “Are you hungry?”, and leave it at that.
I will also say, “When you are done eating, put your bowl in the fridge.”
And I try to remember the “please”.
It has always seemed urgent and important to me as a bio-med mom that he gets his nutritional supplements down the hatch each day.
For those of us who do this, it can be an exhausting daily game of cajoling him to eat or drink it all.
Another trick that is working well now when John lollygags on eating, and we need to leave the house:
I ask him if he wants “to eat at the table or in the car?”
In fact, I further ask him if he wants to brush his teeth in the bathroom or in the car?
He usually does NOT want to eat in the car.
He does take action based on his decision (which is far more useful in his learning self-regulation than Mom nagging).
Many a school morning, I give up on re-directing him or getting him to move faster.
Instead, I say, “Meet you in the car!”
Either he or I have piled his stuff by the front door, and I just walk out.
Please understand we have back-ward chained the skills to process those decisions.
I have shared previously that I actually back the car down the driveway.
I have even driven around the cul-de-sac, as if I were driving away without him.
Most mornings I try to catch him (back) at the front door, so we can practice the key in the lock.
He wants to celebrate winning, but I remind him whoever buckles the seat belt first wins.
The photo of John grinning here was one morning when he “won”.
And I don’t always “let” him win.
I do my best to make it an honest, funny, laughing competition.
Maybe some of these ideas will help your mornings.
Peace be with us,