Sometimes we parents don’t notice that our child is making progress.
We get wrapped up in schedules and hurry.
We miss small things.
Until we trip over them.
So, the other day I found a box of old junk from my previous car.
You know, when you have to clean out the old vehicle to trade it in?
I had thrown everything from the trunk into a box, and forgot about it.
So, spring cleaning the garage, I unexpectedly found it.
It was filled with memories that brought me to my knees.
……stuff I used to carry around when we didn’t have #2’s going into the right place and
toys that I had hoped might (finally) make him curious
like other kids are curious.
I have since also passed on to others his collection of early childhood videos,
including the beloved Blues Clues.
Videos we watched over and over, somewhere between a stim and a prayer for learning.
It’s a necessary purge, to remove familiar/old/preferred videos (in this example),
to force John to progress on to new things.
Always pushing for age-appropriate.
He may wonder where they went. Sometimes he asks for them.
I say, “good question!”, and re-direct him to something (anything) else.
Out with the old.
On to the new, we always hope.
He will get over the loss of the familiar.
Already he is paying new attention to new things.
This can work in your home: Whatever it takes to scootch our kids into new neural pathways.
Peace be with us,