With all our vacation “teachable moments in the bathroom” (because I was mortified by John’s bad choices in front of my extended family), quite by chance I found an ideal motivator.
Extrinsic. Not intrinsic. But still dirty pool.
I just held up the blow dryer.
“Do you want to _______ or help me with this blow dryer?”
It was instant compliance. With no effort or persuasion needed.
Maybe this evil idea could help you. If you are OK with the dark side of it all.
Some days are just a bit more desperate.
Peace be with us.